Friday, December 5, 2008
Check-up
Desire - check
Discipline - double check.....lol I mean check, check.
So far, so good. I am intent on being a good girl this Christmas. Of course, the hard part hasn't arrived yet. Laughs intently at internal jokes.
And now I'm elated - but for an entirely different reason. ^ _ ~
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Green
We met during Freshman Orientation. He was very excited about our program and chosen course path, talking a mile a minute as he tried to get everyone up to his level and insisted we should all hang out as a group. I was rather tired that morning and thus reserved, so he picked on me the most. Fast forward to the first day of instructions, when whom should I see but said guy in my very first class. Not only did he recognize me from 10 rows up, but he also remembered my name. He hollered until I waived back. Fortunately, I was never early to class, so I generally sat in the back and out of sight for the remainder of the term.
After that class, we ran into each other every once in awhile. He always insisted we kick it together, but we never got past the abrupt email exchanges. I didn't see him again until Senior year when we took the same class yet again. He hadn't changed much; same thin guy with large eyes and a somewhat high voice - total turn-off. Not that there is anything wrong with big eyes, but he had a slight staring problem. And when you returned the look, he would blink rapidly and bounce them away. There was just an odd vibe from him. My friends who have met him all agree.
Then I found out that his research quarter was down the hall from mine, so we saw each other even more frequent. We exchanged numbers but didn't get together. Everytime I saw him, he would say, "Let's hang out. I'll call you." But it never happened, and I sure as heck was not going to initiate it. That, and each time this occurred, he was with a different girl. Granted, I was not hot for him, but envy is envy and guys become more attractive when they appear less available. Or maybe it's just me.
Well, finally he did call, and we went out a couple of times but it never ended well. Nary without a little quibble or full out vocal brawl. He felt uncomfortable because I was too quiet. I couldn't help it; my defensive mode kicks in once a date is confirmed. He said he used to be the same and I, recalling Orientation, questioned his sincerity. I was uncomfortable letting him pick up the tabs. But when I offered to go dutch he became offended. In the midst of all this, I mentioned that I was not interested in a relationship at the moment, and he questioned my sexuality.
After college, we didn't stay in touch at all. Thinking back, it wouldn't have worked out. We were too different. He prefering the outdoors and I being a couch potato. He seemed almost completely White-washed whilst I kept my roots submerged. That, plus the lean demeanor, childish voice, and posse of girls. Perhaps it was just a simple meal or drink with a co-worker, friend, or classmate. I wouldn't know. There were no introductions which only sustained my suspicions. I can't help it. The Green-eyed monster is hard to disguise.
But I digress. As it so happened, I bumped into him at dinner last night. Afterwards, he suggested we go for Thai tea. No one else answered, so I said okay, since there was a place down the street. Just as we headed towards the door, this girl steps out of the restroom and said she was ready to go. That was that. Of course, he motioned he would call me. Yeah, try 5 years ago when you actually had my number!
On a side note, he did look slightly less thin. But arm candy is still a definite NO.
On an unrelated note, I finally conquered my fear of snakes. We were out in a green neighborhood and one came at my sister. I found a long stick and was able to pick it up and flick it into a bush before wondering if I should have killed it first, since this was a residential area. It happened all too quickly. The snake was a short, plump, purple and grey. Likely a baby and definitely not a rattler, so unsure if it was even poisonous. Possibly someone's new pet boa?
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Trekking
So, I've started listening to old songs from way back again. Haven't really thought about old classmates and friends though, at least not more than a quick where are they now bubble. Think I just wanted to make sure I am still myself. I prefer to move forward, but at the same time, I don't want to shed all my layers completely. I mean, I'd like to think that I'm still the same girl I was a decade ago, albeit a bit less reserved and slightly more fashionable. Nothing wrong with change but it would be weird to wake up one day and realize you're a completely different person than you had been so and so years ago - even if the changes were gradual. Perhaps it's because I've reached another milestone. Perhaps it's because the current world of rock n pop has begun to dwindle again. Or maybe I just miss those old songs, because they still sound darn good.
Monday, November 10, 2008
=x
I will be strong,
I won't be silly,
I will survive,
And walk sans frills.
Marshmallow Fudge
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Autumn Dilemma
On an unrelated note, I asked for a sign and got one. Yet I'm not thrilled as I imagined I would be. In fact, just thinking about it makes me more sad. There was a flutter of delight when I first realized it, but not like before. Perhaps it was too simple, as I reckoned the flair of the end product would be directly proportional to the length of the wait. Perhaps it was my surrounding and mood. Either way, I refuse to even consider that I have moved on, especially not for a would be fling.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
S.A.M.
I first met him in Fourth Grade. We went to the same school and per chance, bumped into each other one long, fateful day. He was in love with a new girl whose family had just moved to town. We had a nice heart to heart where I learned pretty much every ounce of detail about him that I could draw out. Those bits of conversation are the only things I can accurately recall from that day. After a good length of time, we decided he should profess his love for her, shook hands and sealed our friendship. Er, well, I think he more or less patted me on the shoulder and said, "Thanks for listening. See ya around kid." Or something to that effect.
Ever so often, I did see him around campus and sometimes on the way home from school. He would smile and wave. And I would wave back, frantically, quite ecstatic that a Junior High student took notice of me. Eventually, I came round to meeting this girl he was still crushing on. She was very charming and friendly as he had introduced me as his Lil Sis. He was preppy and clean-cut, while she sported the trendy spirals of a popular perm. They looked so good together; he handsome, she adorable. It took them awhile to get together, but it was inevitable and for the next couple of years, I both admired and aspired to their level of passionate, innocent love. Then they entered High School and I was left behind, still full of regard for my perfect couple.
One day in Sixth Grade, while wandering off on an especially uncaptivating lecture, I thought about Sam and that long talk on that one afternoon. The more I thought about him, the more I realized that he was the ideal man for me. This was more than a crush. I liked everything about him. The way he looked, the way he dressed, his mannerism, even his flaws. In fact, his flaws made him more desirable - like a hero with conflicted ideals. I admired the commaderie between him and his boys. It was cute that he pined for his girl and beat himself up when he did something that made her angry. I especially adored his passion for academics and community service and how he struggled to juggle them because he could not whole-heartedly devote himself to one without neglecting the other. Even the slight crookedness of his smile was captivating.
It wasn't until Ninth Grade that I finally saw him again. I was devastated to learn that he and Lan were on a break. Her family had moved back to their hometown and the distance was a daunting obstacle - this being the pre-cellular age and all. At the same time, I felt shamefully hopeful that I might have a chance to step into her role. Thus, I was elated when he spotted me at the Spring Fling and asked me to dance with him. And for a long time, that was the only moment I enjoyed dancing with the opposite sex. Shortly after that, he would graduate and leave my bubble, but not before half jokingly proposing to be my back-up. If memory serves me correctly, the conversation went like this: Hey, remember last week on [some show where some character] talked about having a back-up if they don't get married by 30? Well, maybe we can do that. You're not that much younger than me, so if we don't meet anyone in college, then it'll be you and me. How about it? Um, okay. I guess so. Yeah, when we're old, like when we're 30. Smile and nod. How happy was I? I cannot, however, for the life of me remember the show that sparked this idea.
And then it was three long years in high school without him. Threes are much more terrible than twos. But I was optimistic and I held out for him even though I did not have to. Even though I knew he would not have wanted me to. I held on to that vague promise throughout University. I would have sporadic dreams about him, us, which only inflated my hope even more so. And I only saw him once during that entire period.
It was Sophomore year, I think. He remembered where I lived and passed by my parent's house while visiting friends. As luck would have it, I happened to be home that weekend and we took a walk downtown to catch up on the each other's lives. He was taller than I remembered. Much more mature and as handsome as ever. I felt like a kid next to him. That same Elementary School kid looking up at a, now, cool young adult. Of course, he told me that he and Lan were back together again, and I was quite happy for them. They really do make a good couple. I didn't have to curb my disappointment because I was stoked that I got to see him again. It was just a quick chat as we both had plans. We exchanged dorm stories and he gave me some pointers on surviving college. Then we parted and I have been kicking myself for not getting his contact info. I didn't have a cell phone yet, but we certainly could have swapped emails. Nevertheless, I have faith that he will be able to seek me out when he returns. Afterall, my parents still live in the same spot.
But now, I am quickly approaching that magical number and wondering if anything will happen or if I have been a fool for waiting this long. This was, afterall, supposed to be a second thought. A fall back plan gone awry, sucking up a good portion of my time in the process. As a result, I have only half-heartedly flung myself into the dating scene every now and then. Particularly, at moments when the string I'm gripping onto is so thin that it appears invisible. People think it is apathy towards marriage or the male of the species, but in truth, I'm just holding back. Just like when one is out shopping for the latest electronic toy. You want to make sure it's the latest one with all the specs you could possibly want, even if you don't need it, because there is that faint chance you may use it later. I want options but I also do not want to settle.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Heritage vs. Diversity
But that seemed like eons ago. Mom no longer cooks stictly TC food, or even regularly. We still eat Chinese food daily, but gone are the nuances and embelishments that separate them from other Asian households. It is quite sad to realize that my younger siblings will not be able to pick out a TC dish from among dozens of Cantonese ones. English has assumed itself as the dominant tongue with Vietnamese a close second. Darn those Romans and their Alphabets! I feel quite helpless in my futile quest to keep our language alive as I can see my vocabulary crumbling and withering away as I attempt to raise its usage. The social aspect of TC life is not much better either. We attend the Temple and shop at TC owned markets out of habit more so than mere appreciation or enjoyment. We've stop frequenting TC restaurants and shops because we no longer feel the urgency to be loyal and dutiful even though our loyalty is being challenge more so at this moment than a decade ago. Even friends with TC roots are being tossed assunder as we embrace the new and exciting key marks of unfamiliar cultures. I, myself, have tried being more receptive to acquainances who are TC, but novelty wears off once the dust begins to settle.
Somewhere along the way, TC became 'Tentatively Chinese.' Perhaps, it was the separation from the Teo Chew enclave. Perhaps it was the departures of the elderly. Perhaps it was the impact of multiple assimilations and the general apathy of the first generation. Somehow, we allowed ourselves to be engulfed in the melting pot of America and undistinguishable from our fellow Countrymen. We can call ourselves Chinese Americans, but we cannot be truly Teo Chew and American at the same time without losing a piece of each in the compromise. Such is the price for freedom of thought and the flourishment of diversity. Whether this price is large or small, depends stictly on which side of the line we find ourselves on at any given moment.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Update on Elle
I took a break from work to indulge in a nice relaxing vacation, got lazy, met new people, hung out with old friends, injured myself, and got reacquainted with my other half. Not necessarily in this order. To sum it up, let's just say it has been a rollercoaster of a season and what better way to celebrate it than at the happiest place on Earth, hah? Hah?
Seriously though, I was very happy for a period and then extremely sad for an equal amount of time. I guess when you're that high up, any fall will feel extra hard. Now I'm just riding the tide back and forth. I knew this would be a rough year, but I was really hoping to defy the Fates. As if that's not bad enough, the year's still quite fresh and full. This will definitely be an "interesting" year.
So what else is new? I am in danger of becoming a hypocrite which also happens to be one of my pet peeves. The mighty Gods have presented me with a new test of life. This time, it appears that my conviction is on the line. The problem is, I am not sure which part is the actual test. Do I stand my ground and refuse the temptation as I have constantly told myself I would do, should I ever be presented with this type of challenge? Or would this not go away until I step up to the plate and engage in the game? I want to be strong and go with my original plan, but at the same time, I like playing with fire. I just don't want to get burned or injure the other parties involved. Such difficult choices. And all I wanted was to have some fun. No strings, no guilt. Maybe I'm just not that kind of girl.
Anyhoo, on a lighter note.........
Random thought of the month: Strawberries taste like tongue.
Monday, March 10, 2008
Myths About Elle: Food
How well do people really know you?
My friends can finish my thoughts and My siblings can predict my reactions, and yet, they wouldn't be able to tell you who my favorite actor is, or which food I prefer or rather just the opposite. Having known my close knit crew intimitely for a long time now, some things go without saying. And then, there are those "other" trivial tidbits that have gone un-noticed. As the list is a growing one, I will just touch on the singular subject of food.
Caffeine
Myth: Elle does not drink coffee.
Myth: Elle cannot handle caffeine
Truth: So far away. Being Chinese, tea is never more than a sip away. Having grown up in Vietnam, I thrive on French Roast. I can't even remember my first sip of coffee because I was so young. My parents often reminisce that I drank cupfuls by the time I was 4. Don't believe it? Just consider my stature. Ask anyone - I'm the shortest one in the family.
Origin: I used to drink tea everyday and coffee on weekends. Then I got to college and only had time for tea once a week and coffee once a month. Not adjusting well to often haphazard schedule of University life, it became increasingly hard to get up. At the same time, I began feeling numb to the effects of caffeine. And so, I gave it up. Eventually, the dominating traces of the drug was flushed out of my system and I was no longer immune to the effects from occasional indulgences. It wasn't until the invasion of Boba-mania that tea slowly crept back into my life. Coffee however remains over-priced and less forgivable.
Dairy
Myth: Elle cannot eat cheese
Truth: Elle is only somewhat lactose intolerant.
Origin: I say "no" to certain cheeses. They see that I'm Asian and have trouble downing milk (sometimes) - thus, a convenient lie is born. I actually have more success with cheese than milk, but it is just easier to tell people that I can't digest hard or crumbly cheeses.
Real Truth: I can't get past the stench of hard cheeses like Parmesan and I don't like the texture of Feta. Bleu Cheese encompasses both qualities so I try to stay as far away from it as possible.
Dessert
Myth: Elle likes sweet stuff
Truth: Whoever believes that obviously has not seen me scrape the excess icing off my donuts. Don't get me wrong. I like dessert, just not overly sweet ones. Hence, I prefer Asian cakes and plain donuts.
Origin: I have been caught on numerous occasions, oggling the dessert menu. What can I say? The pictures are pretty. And if someone insists, I'm not going say no.
Alcohol
Myth: Elle enjoys social drinking
Truth: I do not enjoy the taste of wine and spirits. The conspicous glow of my Asian Flush is not encouraging either. Bottom line: Wine gives me a headache, cheap liquor makes me nauseous, and beer tastes bitter (though I do have a higher tolerance for bitter foods than I used to, making this my current drink of choice).
Origin: I like looking at pretty cocktails too. I also enjoy the smell of wine and the way it enhances savory food. I drink on special occasions to join in on the good cheer, but my willingness to partake shouldn't be mistaken for delectation.
So how well do you know your peeps?
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
V-Day Re-take: #742
Weekend Update: CNY & WBD
Anyhow, the highlight of the day was watching my friend, K, participate in the Karaoke contest. She did not make the cut, however, but was given a warm applause and nice consolation prize. Actually, she was probably quite nervous since she sounded a bit off. Kudos to her anyway, since I don't think I would be able to get up on that stage by myself.
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On another note, the highly anticipated President's Day Sale was highly disappointing. Should have known that selections would be weak on the heels of V-Day. Speaking of which, I finally did get around to eating those scrumptious chocolates. Kind of sad, but I had to force myself to pop in the first one. Of course, afterwards the rest slid down quite effortlessly. There were a couple with raspberry fillings that did not strike my fancy, but the color did offset well with the pot of violets I received.
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Oh yeah, and finally got a chance to tidy up my room, although I wasn't able to get rid of anything yet. Holidays always throw me off the trash schedule. I think they should send us a calendar. Yep, so everything is in neater bundles (including the junk and scraps), just waiting for the garbage truck to turn around.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Lonely vs. Alone
Back to the query: What's worse.........feeling lonely or alone?
Previously, loneliness seeped in and out of my life, but I knew I had someone on reserve, so I tried to not let it get to me. Plus, I had plenty of more or less single friends. We were a tight knit bunch, united in our affinity for the uncommitted life. We still are, though a few recent developments have threatened to rip open our circle. Which brings me to........
Why Blog: Reason #3 (Friendsunk)
Like I said, my gals and I are very close. We all met as Freshmen while living in the same dorm complex and our bonds flourished with each periodic gathering in the later terms. Boyfriends came and went but no trouble was felt because none of them stuck around long enough to be welcomed or accepted. Now, though, one of our friends has nabbed a welcomed, potential suitor. Don't get me wrong. We're happy for her. This is what we've wanted for each other. I just didn't think C would leave me so quickly.
At first, I thought it was envy I felt, since said suitor was a potential for most of us and plus I assumed C's time was still distant. However, I eventually came to realize that it was actually sadness that was gnawing at me (quite literally). I play the supportive friend, but each time she relays her new stories, I feel an invisible pair of forceps pinching me. [On a side note: This must be how R feels whenever he sees his newly engaged ex.] Thus, I turn to blogger-space to mark this end of an era and leap forth onto a new ship to sail beyong C & E.
Oops, I just noticed the question went un-answered. But it's late and all of the lovebirds have flown, so I'll leave the answer up to you readers.
Chocolate Melt-Down
What has become of me? I used to love chocolate. Truffles were a luxury, Twix was a pleasure and Snickers hit the spot when hunger beckoned. I bought the V-Day pack last weekend just because I felt this occasion required some chocolate. Come to think of it, I probably chose this particular pack out of habbit rather than due to some intense craving. Snickers used to be my Ichiban, yet I cannot recall the last time I ate one (although if I had to guess, I'd probably say around Halloween). Perhaps I should have gone with my initial selection of Reese's cups, but then again, just the thought of them (at this moment) has sucked the sweetness out of my saliva.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Why Blog: Reason #2 (New Readership)
I know it sounds pathetic, but believe me, I've tried expanding my topics with the usual suspects, but it's useless. Frankly, I'm tired of hearing "I wasn't paying attention," or "I didn't hear/understand a word you said." Sometimes, it's easier and more fun to engage in a heated debate with a stranger or new acquaintance. I enjoy reading other people's personal blogs, so there's bound to be an audience out there who will read mine. ;)
Sunday, February 10, 2008
New Year Tidbits
Thursday, February 7, 2008
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
Xin Nian Kuai Le; Wan Shi Ru Yi!
Wishing you all, good health and a prosperous year of the Rat!
Have a sweet weekend! Dream from the heart!
=0)
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
New Year, Renewed Habits
Somtimes change is no good. Many changes = a much overwhelmed me.
However, today's the final Calendar day to make amends, so will be staying up to tie some loose ends. Well, at least that hasn't changed.
Current Mood: Listless
Monday, February 4, 2008
Night Stalker
Too Groggy to Google
Case in point: Early to work, early to home.
Doesn't work so well when you add "late to bed" into the equation. Not that it would make much of a difference had I slept at my regular hour last night. I am just not a morning person. I'll say it again if I have to. 4-6 am is my deep sleep period. I fall in and out of sleep and dreams outside of that time frame. As such, I prefer to linger during the latter hours so I can recall my nocturnal adventures with ease. Pluck me from sleep too early, and you will get Oscar the Grouchy with dry, droopy eyes. It's not a pretty sight! Still, it could be worse. Used to be Grumpy with gloves on.
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Welcome to My Blob
Reason #1: Struck in Blog Land
For the past 2 years or so, I have been increasingly sucked into Blogger-space, mostly as an aimless wanderer. I followed many arrows and urls, rounding many corners, but always kept a low profile. Mind you, I was initially skeptical about this blogging phenom. Why would someone want to keep a live journal for anyone to stumble upon? Isn't that why diaries tend to come with locks? However, having been introduced to foodie sites and frequently scooping out countless tv/movie commentaries, I now feel compelled to leave a more permanent mark in Blog Land. After all, once in a while, I'd like to throw out a piece of my mind......just don't want to be standing there when they hurl it back at me.')
In fact, I liked food blogs so much, I considered starting one of my own. But then I actually thought about it, and decided I'd rather have a place to give my 4 cents. Hence, welcome to my blob! Enjoy the ride.